November has arrived. For most of us, winter has too, but for November’s Mmm Makers, winter is still a balmy 72 degrees Fahrenheit (that’s about 21 Celsius). Coming in hot from Florida, please welcome Mike and Samantha of marriagesexandmore to the spotlight. You can also find them on Only Fans, Twitter and Reddit. Make sure you go and say hi!
As always, I asked Mike and Samantha some questions, this is what Mike had to say.
What is your astrological sign?
We aren’t too much into signs, but I am a Virgo and Samantha is a Cancer. Although we don’t buy into the horoscopes, we do fit the descriptions for the signs…
As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
I wanted to be a police officer. My dad was a police sergeant and back in the 70’s and 80’s there were police shows all over tv. Not a cop show, but my favorite show of all time is Magnum PI. I eventually became a cop, retired and I’m now working again. However, as you saw in a recent post, I am calling it a day and becoming part of the problem!
When did you first start writing/Vlogging/etc?
I don’t remember the year, but it was likely 10 plus years ago. I’ve had several versions of this blog, but never did the photographs in the past. They were more blogs about my experiences in fixing our marriage. One had a very large following, but due to my views and topics not being “politically correct” in light of today’s medias narratives on marriage I deleted them. I was still working at the time and figured it would be best to lay low. Now, I am free and really don’t care anymore.
What led to the idea of your blog/site/niche/etc.?
My current blog is a mixture of my effort to help men figure out where they went wrong in their marriage. Why their wives do not respect them, why they look in the mirror and see a man-child, why they aren’t getting laid, all the things’ men do based on what society has told them women want. Spoiler alert, most women do not really want that… The pictures came in because my wife and I are exhibitionists I suppose. We enjoy posting on the blog, Twitter, Reddit, and OnlyFans. The blog is my preferred and favorite space to post, but it seems there are a lot less people in this space these days than there used to be.
I didn’t want two different blogs
One on marriage and one sharing photos so I came up with a way to merge the two. I think it works; my following is growing slowly but steadily. My advice isn’t for everyone, I am no expert. All I can say is it worked for me… Very well… I believe the reasons so many dislike marriage, and so many end in divorce, is because they aren’t doing marriage right.
What are you most proud of accomplishing? Either in your niche or in general? Why?
Personally, raising three well-adjusted and successful kids. Not always easy in this world of social media insanity.
Professionally, I was a detective for 20 years of my career. I worked crimes against kids, the elderly and many years of human trafficking. Mostly domestic sex trafficking. I don’t care about accolades, money, awards. What I got out of my career was leaving the world (in a small way) better than I found it. At least for a few people I was able to help. If one isn’t in law enforcement with the intention to help, they are in it for the wrong reasons.
What is one book everyone should read?
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. It’s written for men, but many women would benefit from it as well. Often, you will find the answers to your unhappiness in the mirror. That’s hard to swallow for most people. The good news is you have total control and can change your life. Hint: Nice guys aren’t really nice…
Name a song that means something to you.
Demons by Imagine Dragons – I spent much of my young life and marriage hiding the true me. I was trying to hide my masculinity, desires, what I really wanted. I wasn’t happy. This song captures that feeling perfectly. Although I no longer hide that part of me, I still carry the horrors of the evil that men (mankind, not only men) do. A lifetime of law enforcement in a large city shows you the darkness humans are capable of that fortunately most people in the west never see. You can’t share it with anyone. There is nobody to talk to. Nobody other than other cops or military combat veterans will understand. Cops don’t talk about it because it makes you seem weak. So, you hold it all in, trying to distract yourself. But it’s always there, like a demon…
On a lighter note, my 1a song is Live Like You Were Dying by Tim McGraw. This is how I now live my life (within reason of course). We are all dying, no one gets out of here alive.
If they made a movie about you, who do you think would play you?
This is a tough one because I don’t see my life worthy of a movie. He’s a complete nut in real life, but I’d have to say Tom Cruise. Not because of looks or anything, but because he can play a range of characters and I feel he could tone it down to play an average guy just trying to make it. That and we’re both getting old…
What quote defines the way you live your life?
I’m no Gandhi guy, but there is a quote attributed to him,
“Live like you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”
Ghandi
What is your favourite recipe?
I have three things I make that the family enjoys. Meatloaf – But I wing it so I don’t have an exact recipe except I add a little brown sugar to the meat and top it with a mixture in a bowl of ketchup, mustard and brown sugar as a topping. Chili – Again, I wing it, but I always add dark chocolate chips to it towards the end. Last is my spaghetti sauce – I am half Sicilian so I inherited another wing it recipe from my mom and grandma. We add a little sugar to the sauce. It sweetens it a little and cuts the acid. See a pattern? No recipes… That’s how we cook.
3 posts on your blog you recommend
As of right now I have 396 posts on my blog. I am terrible at categorizing them to make them searchable. Scrolling through I picked these three out that I thought epitomized my blog and efforts to help people have a better understanding of what can make a marriage work long term. At least it’s what worked for me.
https://marriagesexandmore.com/2021/08/30/you-probably-dont-need-a-break-you-need-effort/
https://marriagesexandmore.com/2021/09/01/friends-and-lovers/
https://marriagesexandmore.com/2022/06/06/dont-listen-to-the-dick-expert/
MrsK Note: Each month when I send the questionnaire to our spotlight guests, I give them the option of writing a biography. I’m so delighted that Mike took the opportunity to do so. It’s quite the challenge, but shows a level of self-understanding few of us ever achieve.
Mike’s Bio
My wife Samantha and I began dating at 15 years old. We first had sex at 16 (each other’s first) and got married 22. We have been married 29 years. We are north Florida natives, both many generations back. We raised three kids and are now empty nesters enjoying our freedom. Our early marriage was good relationship wise, but the sex was bad. Once a week duty sex for years. Before knowing what the “manosphere” was I looked in the mirror and didn’t like what I saw. If I didn’t like what I saw why would my wife want to fuck me? It clicked. I knew I had to make a change. Before I knew what “game” was I began acting intuitively in ways that now are described as game. And yes, if you are wondering, you do use game on your wife. Or at least you should be.
I decided to become the best version of me, stop hiding who I really was and what I wanted. I decided to make myself the best version of me I possibly could. This would either inspire my wife to up her game or I was willing to leave her behind. Once I achieved that outcome independently, I felt free. The funny thing is my wife quickly began chasing me and, in the end, asking, “Where have you been all this time?”
We’ve always been best friends
but now we are truly lovers as well. I began blogging to share with others what I was able to do with self-examination and effort. I am nothing special, if I can do it anybody can. My blog is a diary of how we did it. All free and if you reach out, I am willing to help you for free. All I want is for others to see marriage does not have to be a prison or a miserable existence. If it is, you are doing it wrong. Or possibly with the wrong person… But first, before you point fingers, take a long hard look in the mirror and ask, “Would I fuck me?” If you are having to ask that question of yourself, I think you know the answer.
As a side note, yes, we have an OnlyFans page. Before you get all judgy, listen. It is where we post things, we don’t want to post anywhere else (the exhibitionists in us). It’s not a money-making venture, we are about as low a price as you can go. We charge as kind of a filter. We make a little money, but it is really more about the fun we have making content. It keeps things fresh as we try to come up with new ideas. If it went away tomorrow it would be fine, but we would miss it. We really have met a lot of good folks on there, men and women.
We have gone back and forth several times about shutting our OnlyFans down because it can be a lot of work, but we have fun with it. For now, we are staying. There is plenty to see on the other platforms though if you are interested in seeing two 50+ year olds…
Read my blog and if you have any specific questions feel free to reach out to me. I’ll do what I can to help you get where you want to be.
Places we hang out:
My blog – https://marriagesexandmore.com/
Twitter – https://twitter.com/Flbeachlife50
OnlyFans – https://onlyfans.com/flafun
Reddit – u/flnative50 (Still trying to figure out Reddit…)
A huge thanks to Mike and Samantha for agreeing to my the Mmm Maker(s) for November 2022.
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I love these guys!
Me too!
Thank you for spotlighting us this month. We really enjoyed it!